Question by Ender: What should I do if I think I might have aspergers?
To start, I’m a 15 year old boy. And no, I’m not asking if I should get myself diagnosed or not. I’ve read a bundle of articles about it, and I match almost every characteristic. Even if I DON’T have it, well, I still share the characteristics, and I need help. Well, first of all, I notice I have awkward movements and postures. I can’t really help it. And when it comes to social situations, its like my body just shuts down when I begin talking to a stranger. I’ve already planned what I’ve had to say and how I want to say it, but still, when the time comes, it just doesn’t come out right. I start to shake, studder, speak too fast, too slow, and just feel totally uncomfortable. How can I overcome this?
And it’s not just with strangers. It even happens with my close friends sometimes! They’ll ask me a question, and they’ll will truly be interested in my response, but sometimes, I just can’t help it and just give a half-assed response that makes no sense and just say “I don’t know” to their follow up questions. And I really want to tell them the true answer, but it just doesn’t come out right. And when someone tells ME something? All I do is just pay attention to my body language and what my responses are rather than even listen to what they’re saying. I’m too nervous to even notice what they’re saying! And I’ll just end up saying “cool, nice, cool, yeah” very unnaturally
So what I’m asking you is if there is anything I can do. Is there any medications that will, like, calm my nerves when talking to someone? Any practices I should try? Because when I’m in school, I’ll just end up sitting in my seat while everyone else is chatting. I’ll really want to say something but can’t. Or someone will talk to me and I’ll get so nervous I’ll forget everything I originally wanted to say. I’m worried because in the near future, what if I want to get a job? I’ll be so nervous at the interview! And helping people at a cash register or something? How will I ever do that? And even beyond, if I can’t even talk to my friends, how could I possibly talk to a girl to get a girlfriend?
PS: I can communicate via text perfect fine. If I was asking this question to all of you in real life it wouldn’t make sense.
Oh yeah, and 2 more things that might or might not be relevant: Say I want to go jogging. I’ll start, but I’ll just feel so awkward running on the sidewalk in public I just can’t do it. And if I’m on the computer, if someone looks over my shoulder while I’m typing something or watching a video I’ll just instantly freeze and get nervous.
Best answer:
Answer by ¿Ms.Tortoiseshellcat¿
Take it in Stride. Enjoy Life!
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