Question by Gina Martin: Will my husband’s affair last even though he continues to lie and cheat?
Hi. I am a 34 year old woman who was recently faced with the ultimate betrayal, my husband was having an affair. He was recently denied the spousal visa ( for admitting to doing cocaine two months before the immigration interview )and had to return back to mexico for the next 3 years. Once we found out the horrible news, I became weary of how our lives were going to change. He then went to Mexico and promised that he would work on achieving his projects and that I would work on mine. During this time, my dad was in the hospital in urgent care. I was only concerned with his well being but I also made time and TRIED to comunicate with my husband in Mexico, but to no avail. I contacted his family and even wrote him e-mails and he never answered. Until one day, I spoke to his mother and she told me that he was indeed seeing someone else. She told me that he had told his family that we were over. That we had ended our relationship. She was shocked to know that he was my husband. (He didn’t want to tell his parents that we had gotten married because I had put on some weight and he said that his parents wouldn’t approve of me.) My father passed away twenty days later and I was devasted and so hurt, by his passing and also because my husband didn’t even know and probably didn’t even care. I had barely gotten through this when to my surprise I had recieved two emails from my husband, only to open them up and see that these were forwarded e-mails that he had sent to her last year and now were meant for me to read. He said that he LOVED her and that he wanted to be with HER. He DIDN’T send them, she did! She found out and reached out to me!!! She wanted to find out the truth! Then she called me and said that she wanted to ask me so many questions. She said she was angry with my husband for giving me FALSE HOPE and that I should know what was going on as he promised her that our marriage was over. HE NEVER COMMUNICATED WITH ME! The NERVE of HER! To send this to me at work – is she serious!!!??She told me that my husband told her that he WAS NOT intimate with me last year. Well, he was!!! My husband then lied and lied about so many other things and then he said that HATED me since last year and USED me for all he could. He said he ONLY wanted me for the VISA and so many more lies. After everything I did for him. I did EVERYTHING for us!!! I PAID for EVERYTHING and took care of all his NEEDS – PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL!!! I just want to know…is this AFFAIR going to last? He asked me for the DIVORCE! They are putting pictures of themselves on FACEBOOK and they seem so happy. What about KARMA? Is he in love with her? Please help me!!! God bless you all!
P.S – He NEVER apologized and all he said was he just wants to be happy with her.
Best answer:
Answer by Douggie B
You got used big time! Sorry dear!
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Question by Darling: how do I answer the “why did you leave your last job” question at an interview?
I quit my last job due to many very good reasons. The workplace was hostile – filled with catty women who said/did anything to make me uncomfortable. Also because all the other women spent a lot of time playing around all day yet I was busy and on task. The boss still kept giving ME more work and more work while the others watched television. They were also asking me to do things that were fraudulent. I spoke up about these things but it made it all WAY worse. I feel like they all forced me to quit. It truly felt planned out. Had I stayed – they would’ve make it even more unbearable and eventually found a lame reason to fire me – they have done this to several other women who didn’t go along with their smut in the past. So, I quit before they found a reason to fire me.
Now I am not sure how to answer the question of why I left my last position. I’ve read that you should never say anything bad about a past manager or company, but I feel like I should make a comment about maybe “ethical differences.” I know my last employer cannot say anything bad about me for a reference, especially because they are an at-will employer (you are not required to give notice to quit) but I am sure they would say I wasn’t eligible to be re-hired. That is why I want to be able to make a statement to the interviewer that would not say anything BAD but would let him know why they may say I can’t work there again.
Any ideas??
They were not racist. They openly told me they were jealous of me because I was single with no children and had an education.
I believe the only reason they would say I was ineligible for re-hire is because they simply dislike me.They are obviously not good at management, I wouldn’t expect them to adhere to following reference guidelines. I did not say anything bad when I left and I never broke company policy – EVER. In fact, I was the only one who followed policies. Everyone else was just doing whatever they felt like.. sounds so childish but it is all very very true.
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Answer by Sonja C
“personal reasons” or say that they were racist.
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Question by Mike B: How do you answer the question – Why did you leave your last position?
Here’s some background – I have been on many interviews and this question always comes up. ( I use it too)
I have been a maintenance supervisor for 18 years. Recently the Electrical (Mr. T) and Maintenance (me) Supervisors were terminated. The new Maintenance Manager (8 months out of the Navy) has never dealt with anything to do with maintenance except to call someone. When the Electrical Supervisor was -let go- a Navy friend replaced him. He knew next to nothing about electrical. The Navy man who replaced me (the following week) knows about the same as the electrical supervisor. The maintenance crew still calls and complains about them but there is nothing I can do, mostly they just want to tell someone and let off some steam.
What do I say so that I don’t sound like I’m not telling the whole story. I always answer honestly and no I will not lie, I believe this is a problem.
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Answer by West of Encino
just tell them you were downsized. I was released in May (because of outsourcing to India), After 15.5 years. Now you know why its hard to find dedicated people.
Never happen again, I was burned twice
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Question by brittanyblah232: My last job ended fishy! what do i do?
So i was working at a Honeybaked Ham Kiosk at the mall.
Everything was amazing i was a great worker, i got along with all my co workers more then great, we all seemed like a big family!
There was one girl there that i became especially close too…
It all started from one little mis-communication…
I was ending my shift about to leave and i asked “Mary” if she wanted me to stay so she could go eat, and she said No you can leave ill put up a sign.. so as a customer came up i started talking to them, and she just walks away from the Kiosk.. I dont know if its just me but i thought it was common curtosy to say ill be right back or bye ill see you tomorrow or something! especially when your good friends with someone.. and so i waited of course and when she got back i asked if she was mad at me or something, like why did she leave without saying anything… and of course she got all deffensive and said i was irritating her, but again idk if its just me but normally you dont get irritated with friends that quick.. Sooo anyways.. i left pretty sad and hurt at how the night ended and how she acted.. I forgot to take off my aiprin and i called our manager to let her know and told her what happened and she said she noticed “Mary” was in a bad mood and she was sure it would be better the following day…
well sure as hell it wasnt! i was getting ready to come in and all the sudden i get a call from my manager saying ” Dont come in today, your check will be here tuesday, BYE!” and that was it. after that everyone who worked there hates me now and is like out to get me.. so im completely confused.. Also my manager was stealing money from the compony and maybe they thought i was catching on…? idk.. but i tried calling the higher management and they ignored each one of my calls. i donno about you but doesnt that all seem sooo weird..? i just donno what to do.
Oh and on top of it all… they all the sudden need me to come in and sign something because there changing payroll componys, when the season is over and the kiosk is down today! they have been trying to also get my signiture on anything they can… really im kinda like wtf? these people are nuts! PLEASE HELP!
Any advice,
anything.
Just dont waist your time being rude though =]
Thanks.
K.
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Answer by Jobe3
WOW! Idk wat to do but i would find out wat was goin on before I signed anything.
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Question by alabamagus: Best way to list reason I left last job?
I was working at a major retailer until last week. I was in the receiving area and was talking to a friend and had a curse word slip out. I wasn’t near any customers and it wasn’t used in malice or anger. One of the managers overheard me and knew that I had gotten in trouble before for using improper language. i was called into the office and told that since i had already gotten in trouble for it I had to be let go, since it was the next step. I was a little in shock and a little bit angry at the time, so I just signed the paper( not wanted to burn bridges, since in this economy, I may have to return). Anyway, now that I’m applying for other jobs, what’s the best way to answer”why did you leave your last job”. Do I be truthful? Legally, what can my ex-employer say if contacted. Will it destroy my chances if I’m open about what happened. I don’t want to lie but I feel it was wrong for me to be let go. Of course, i don’t want to be too harsh about my ex-employers either, since that can look bad as well. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Answer by Alice
This is a situation where I think that absolute truthfulness will help more than hurt. Just say what happened without sounding angry or aggrieved at the store’s policy, and also state that you have learned a valuable lesson and will not make the same mistake twice.
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Question by Just Me: One of my coworkers is getting on my last nerve?
I’ll try to make this as short as possible so I don’t bore anyone to death. Last year one of my coworkers husband was going on a business trip thing out of the country for at least 6 months, and she decided to go along. They don’t offer vacation days here, so if you need time off you have to find someone to work for you. She talked to management and wanted to know if they could hold her job for her for when she got back. She was told that they would have to hire someone to replace her since she would be gone for at least 6 months, but if something was open when she got back she could come back to work.
She came back a few months ago, and was gone about 7 months. They let her come back, but due to her replacement still working here, she is part time with very few hours. This is were the drama starts. Every time I see her, she will blow up about how it’s not fair that she gets only a few hours a week now and her husband was laid off shortly after they got back in the country and unemployment doesn’t pay very much. She says the man they hired to replace her should be let go now that she is back so she can have her regular schedule back. She is trying to get him fired now and says he doesn’t even look professional and she comes in looking like she is ready to work and is one of the best people at the job and the most liked. He has a second job where he will work a few hours here and there and she says it’s not fair that he gets hours somewhere else and here and she isn’t getting any hours and has kids to raise and no one else here has small kids. I suggested to her maybe look for a new job and she said I’ve had interviews but no where will work around my kids schedule and I don’t want to put them in day care. The first few times, I’d stick up for the guy she is trying to get fired and tell her it’s not fair to hire someone else to work for you while you’re gone and didn’t even know when you’d come back and for him just to be let go like that. We are all here because we need money to live and most of us don’t have a spouse here with an income, not because we are bored and have nothing better to do. Now it’s to the point where she has just worn on my last nerve. She stays over a half hour after her shift ends going on about this while I’m trying to do my work. I’ve been telling her go to management with your concerns, there is nothing I can do, but I guess she hasn’t.
It’s really wearing me down, and I really don’t like how she is attacking her replacement like that and trying to get him fired, he is a good worker a good professional person. Should I just take everything I’ve said here to management or let it go? I know it’s not my place to get involved, but I’m about two seconds from snapping at her and I’ve never snapped at anyone at work.
Thank you everyone who took the time to read this.
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Answer by jubbie
im sorry but i would say just snap at her. and then smile sweetly get up and walk away.
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