Question by s1jj: My Ex left me after 2 years for her Ex?
Wow, but i recently was in a relationship with my “ex”(how i hate that word) for 2 years. it felt like magic, we had grown to love each other, and she told me things that made me feel like we would be together for along time. we never argued, and i felt like this was the girl of my dreams, and she was the only girl who i could honestly see purposing to in the future. Well one day i got angry at her because she didn’t call me in like 3 days, and she didn’t call me on my birthday. i had some drinks, and told her in person why i was upset and i made her feel bad about herself, even though i didn’t mean too, but i was really angry. i told her things like “what type of girlfriend would treat there boyfriend like this?”, i didn’t really mean most of it, but i thought that saying those things was the only way that i could get to her (boy was i right). immediately she went into a breakdown where she told me that she had alto of problems and distractions in her life, and that she needed time on her own to figure herself out, and that she couldn’t be in a relationship anymore. That astounded me, because i would of never of thought that she would want to be alone after what i said to her. it was hard for me, but because i loved her i gave her her time hoping that maybe she would expect my apologies and give me another chance. (boy was i wrong). the next day she wrote me letter, yes a letter, she couldn’t even tell me face to face after a 2 year relationship, that she needs to be alone and that even though i might not agree, i deserve better (!??!?!!?@! ft) i couldn’t believe it. i rushed to her house, and i asked her if she didn’t want to be with me face to face, she began to cry and tell me that she needs time to deal with things in her life on her own, and that i couldn’t help her, no one could. i apologized for everything i said and asked her if she still was in love with me, and she told me she was, she just needed her time alone. i was in shock, because i never wanted to lose her, but i felt that i was, and there was nothing i could do. again i gave her time hoping that 1 day she might be ok, but things got worse, she began to ignore me, and when i say “ignore” i mean it. she didn’t answer her calls, she didn’t respond back to me in e-mails, and that made me feel like sh**. i couldn’t believe that a girl that claimed she loved me after 2 years could do this, but thats when i learned anything is possible. even funnier her bestfriend who i was cool with ignored me too,and didn’t answer her calls. after about a month, i began to notice that my ex had started to become friends with her ex!! on Myspace, and that confused the crap out of me, because i didn’t want to believe she was dating him again, because she told me the reason why she left him, and the reason was really bad ( i wont get into that). My love for her denied every fact that she could be talking to him again, and went on to believing the fact that she was going through some things and needed time, because i asked her face to face if she wanted me to move on, and she told me half of her didn’t, but the other half did, because she knew she would be hurting by her having her alone time. ( i trusted her). 1 month and a week later, i gave her a surprise visit at her job, and guess who picked her up?!? (her ex, you were right!!) i drive up to his car and ask her wtf is going on?!?, and if shes been cheating on me this whole entire time, and she told me that she didn’t cheat on me, but that she didn’t want to be with me anymore. i was completely shocked by her response, because 1. Her whole attitude seemed different, and 2. She never told me she didn’t want to be with me anymore. I asked her when did she stop loving me, and she told me she didn’t know. I told her that i trusted her and asked if she was dating her ex, and she told me she was for about a month now (?!?!?!?). So that entire month of her needed her alone time was BS, she was talking to her ex again. Whats funny about the whole entire situation is, all i wanted was the truth, and she couldn’t even give me that after a 2 year relationship. I will never forget the pain i felt that night, and all the good times i had with her will forever crush me. Whats even crazier, is that i didn’t hate her like i thought i would, because when we were together it was great, i actually tried to just be her friend, because i didn’t want to lose her as that, but she just lies and ignores me now. its like i don’t exist to her anymore. I guess that its never good to think 1 way about a situation, and maybe its not always a good thing to think with your heart. Its not the Good guys who come last its the Bad ones, because in the end, they end up with your girl.
Best answer:
Answer by TRULEY MADLY DEEPLEY
I’m so sorry to hear that. I know exactly what you’re going through. Because I’m going through it myself. Right at this moment. Just when you think you are kinda over the situation, the next day you just feel like crawling in a whole somewhere and just be miserable with noone bothering you. And at the same time, you miss them terribly. And you just hope that one day soon, they will come to their senses and come home where they belong.
I’ll pray for the both of us…….Good Luck S1JJ
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